A clean slate, an open heart and boundaries are something I rarely started with in the past but it's how I wake up every morning now. I embrace the newness of day and opportunity and although yesterday may have been a bear for one reason or another, the new day presents a chance to breathe differently, pray more effectively, release more expectations and dream cleaner visions for myself and others. When you come from a place of hurt or brokenness, your expectations are cloudy, never fulfilled and disappointment is the order of the day. When you release all of that and embrace openness you realize that even if the other person never even notices you, you do not have to buckle under unmet expectations, you notice yourself. You love and nurture yourself and more importantly, you set boundaries. You adjust the flow of qi in your life in a sense. If you focus on energy that is negative or of a really low vibration - like anger, or sadness, that energy will be more prevalent. The opposite of that is also true and so much more beneficial.
I am living proof that you can change and you can overcome just about anything. Love yourself first and the energy that flows from you will be illuminating.